I love Dessy’s free message and how she embraces life. Fashion allows us to brand and express our uniqueness. Once upon a time, it was also my passion but I replace it with a passion for nutrition and fitness. One thing to remember in the space of freedom we also need to reconnect and that connection is self-nurturing.
Self-nurturing is the practice of setting boundaries with others, sleeping well, eating well, exercising enough so that sleeping and eating fall in place, saying sweet nothings to yourself in a cruel world. Just imagine a loving mother and a best friend wrapped up into one and then being that to yourself. One of my favorite quotes by Eartha Kitt best sums the meaning:”I fall in love with myself, and I want someone to share it with me. And I want someone to share me, with me.” She is the undisputed original self-love diva!
I quote her a lot. Mostly because she reminds me of my mother who passed 20 years ago. She also is a recognizable woman who broke so many barriers at a time when women were treated as less. She, Elizabeth Taylor and Josephine Baker all are stellar examples of self-nurturing. They did not let the patriarchal society swallow them whole. They created and danced to their own music. As much as we like to think society has evolved not much has changed it just show up differently.
For most of my life, I danced to and created my own music. But my transition from career woman to stay at home mom, caught me off guard. I had these small people and life partner to care for and attend. Who was I? Where am I? Is it okay if I still exist in my previous form? Oh, no I can’t. It all came to a head after a difficult second pregnancy resulting in gaining over 60 pounds at the age of 30! Who is she?
I couldn’t see myself anymore.
I said to myself,”Enough with the woe is me bit! My life does not suck and my choices rock! ” In the background, my husband did not support most of my choices or did so half-heartedly. So I created a way to insulate myself from all the negativity and create a safe space for my light and gifts to still shine. That was the beginning of the inner transformation.
It started with a keen desire to release all of the negative baggage and grief. Once my head was in a happy space, I started researching foods to improve my mood. They happen to be the same foods to help me lose weight. I also found that exercise elevated my mood and moved as much as possible. Within six months, I had dropped 30 pounds and gained a whole new perspective on life. The rest melted away in the next few months. I am here even better than before because now I am wiser and have two beautiful little people. My self-nurturing journey was mine and my happy place. With every challenge it became my go to.
I generously shared my story with every mother in every mom’s group I led. After seven years of giving advice to many moms, I decided to start a blog called Living in Harmony Motherhood.
Why? Because I was pregnant with our fifth child. After having a perfect system that kept me centered and the household peaceful, I was worried that I could not maintain. I had to revamp my whole system to allow for one more. That evolution gave birth to Workout Around My Day a year after welcoming our sixth child. By the way, she was born when I was 42 and now I am sharing clothes with my teenage daughter.
So what does self-nurturing have to do with weight loss? When you care for yourself like a loving mother and your best friend, you will thrive and prioritize your needs.
My name is Cordelia Gaffar and I am an author, speaker and founder of Workout Around My Day. This three step process I created over the past fifteen years helped me to remain centered and to raise my six children. With this program moms can thrive and prioritize themselves by nourishing with wholesome food, energizing with movement and encouraging themselves with sweet talk.
As a corporate accountant and commuting mom in 2002, I found self-care overwhelming and needed to easily provide a peaceful environment and wholesome food for my family. Beginning with a stressful second pregnancy resulting in postpartum depression and excessive weight gain, I started researching and implementing foods and exercises to be centered, peaceful, and whole. Fast forward to 2010, I started blogging during my fifth pregnancy which were the humble beginnings of my book, Workout Around My Day: the Only Health Guide Moms Need. The mission on my blog site was “unite humanity one blog at a time”.
I started live streaming in 2016 to spread my message globally. “I feel that moms are the pillars of society and that is why I want them to create a total system of self-nurturing”.
I work individually with women or in workshops, offer online courses and support them in myFacebook groups.
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